Why Choose Divorce Mediation For Marriage Dissolution

Divorce mediation is a popular alternative to the traditional method for getting divorced for many couples in Kansas and Missouri. For people who have experience with divorce, they know the impact it can have on family members at the realization that the marriage is over. It often causes feelings of extreme anxiety, depression and a range of other emotions.

In fact, divorce has been compared to experiencing the death of a loved one – the feelings of anger, fear, loss, and sadness are all typical in divorce. With all the other uncertainties and strife going on in the world today, choosing divorce mediation as your option for divorcing has several advantages.

 of choosing divorce mediation:

  • Your divorce attorney mediator is neutral.
  • You and your spouse control the outcome.
  • Mediation is private and confidential.
  • You and your spouse can resolve issues quickly out of court.
  • Often the communication between you and your spouse Improves during the mediation process.
  • Couples choosing mediation as a method for divorcing are often better co-parents for their children. 

divorce mediator choosing mediationChoosing divorce mediation involves hiring a neutral third-party mediator, in addition to your divorce attorney (if you choose), who will act as a facilitator to try and help you and your spouse resolve your disputes in a mutually respectful, goal-oriented way.


Lack of communication is a common factor with divorcing couples when the parties are unable to effectively talk discuss various aspects of the divorce and find ways to resolve them. There are many issues to getting divorced, such as the division of marital property, child support,  parenting time with the children and spousal support. Teaching couples a better way to communicate with one another is vital to reaching a resolution through mediation to conclude the divorce. 

Your divorce attorney mediator will not make decisions for you and your spouse or rule on the issues – it’s up to you and your spouse to come to a satisfactory agreement that you both can live with going forward. Your attorney divorce mediator will help by providing legal information, supporting to a discussion of settlement options and the gathering and compiling of financial information. Mediation may take several sessions, depending on whether you and your spouse are able to agree on all the issues. Full disclosure and being open to suggestions and compromise are essential for divorce mediation to be effective and to avoid the high cost of a public litigated divorce action. 

divorce mediation the hill law firm pc overland park kansas cityAnother reason why people choose mediation is that sessions are private and confidential. Nothing that is said during divorce mediation is included in any public court records with the exception of the terms of the settlement. You will avoid the stress of having to face a judge in a formal courtroom setting and talk about your personal financial issues and your personal family life, where anyone can come in, sit down and listen.

With divorce mediation, you and your spouse are in control; together you will make the important decisions – not a judge. Once you have reached a negotiated settlement, either your divorce mediator or one of your attorneys will draw up a settlement agreement outlining all of your issues and your decisions for resolving them. You and your spouse will then review the proposed agreement before signing it. The mediator ( or your attorney, if you have one)  will submit the agreement to the court to be entered as part of the final divorce decree.

At The Hill Law Firm, P.C., we have extensive knowledge regarding the divorce mediation process and provide competent, compassionate mediation services. We are committed to making what is often a difficult experience better for clients and their families. Our mediation services are provided in Overland Park, Johnson County, Kansas and the Northland in Kansas City, Missouri.

Schedule a consultation or obtain more information about divorce mediation, collaborative mediation or collaborative divorce.

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